Agony Aimee: I fancy my housemate

 

Agony Aimee’s reply

Dear Ms. Nonymous,

The first thing to do is find out if she’s gay or not (see our post “How do I know if my crush is gay” for more details on how to crack that particular enigma code). If she is gay and you’re sure of it, there are a few things to weigh up before you make a move. First off, how close are you? The closer you are as friends the less likely you would be to risk a relationship, but if you gel well because you think you both like each other, then I believe if it’s meant to happen, it will. Next off and perhaps looking at the more cynical side of things, how many people do you live with? Is it enough people to be able to able to avoid each other and hang out with other people if anything does sour between you?

Once you have weighed up your options it only really comes down to whether you’ll regret not asking her out. People get together at university all the time. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. Statistically one in three people find their future husbands/wives there so you never know, she could be Miss Right! Maybe start things slow and see where it takes you.

I hope that helps clear some things up. And don’t forget, university is the one place to live with no regrets, so make sure you make the decision that makes you happy.

Yours,

Agony Aimee