5 Steps To A Better GaydarGirls Profile

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Some people often find it difficult to summarise themselves in a box, whether it is down to shyness, lack of inspiration or a severe case of the CBAs.

I have put together a guide to help making a profile that little bit simpler so you can get on with finding that perfect girl and most importantly, based on your new profile, a better match for you.

1. Location:

Be honest about where you are in the world. Maybe you live in a mansion overlooking Hyde Park, maybe you live on a farm in Kirkcaldy.

Editor’s Note: Or maybe a high-rise in New York, or a bush-shack in outback Australia…

Wherever you live it is disappointing to start chatting to somebody who you then find out lives a world away from you. Maybe some people want a pen pal or the injection of romance that long-distance can provide but let them make that choice for themselves.

2. Physical description:

We all have aspirations to eat better, take more exercise and cleanse, tone and moisturise every night but we also know that nobody’s perfect.

That is why if I want a massive slice of chocolate fudge cake for breakfast, I have it and if I fall into bed twice a week with my make-up still on (read: every night), I don’t beat myself up about it.

Everyone has that pair of jeans that you keep in your wardrobe in the hope that you will drop 2 stone before the clothes moths obliterate them but you shouldn’t view your profile as such.

Let people imagine the real you when they read your profile, lumps, bumps and all.

3. About you:

Try to think about the things that are really important to you.

What do you love?
What do you feel passionate about?
What makes you tick and what are the nuances of your personality that make you YOU.

The more information you put in here the more likely it is that a potential passer-by on your profile can latch on to it and use it to strike up conversation.

Throw people a bone and help them connect with you on some level.
If you like knitting or football or collecting spoons, shout about it!
You will either attract other spoon lovers or encourage people to ask questions, BOTH are good outcomes.

Knowing yourself and how to articulate that shows confidence which is very attractive.
Push your best qualities to the top of the profile and don’t leave it for others to coax them out of you.

4. Looking for

It is not a negative to know what you are looking for and it doesn’t have to be a dictatorial list of hair colours, inside leg measurements or specific regional accents.

Providing basic guidelines to what you are looking for makes people feel comfortable and more likely to reach out if they fit that bill.
Have you ever had that spark of excitement when you see someone who also hates litterers?
Or people who talk on mobiles in the quiet zone of the train?
Someone who shares a passion for reading or P!nk?

Give others that thrill of finding someone who is on their wave length, who they can spark up some kind of connection with through mutual interests, goals and ambitions. If you are looking for a Scarlett Johansson lookalike with 36DDs though that’s cool too!

5. Hobbies and favourite things:

Use this space to show the different things going on in your life.
Don’t feel under pressure to produce extensive lists of awards and achievements.
Maybe it’s walks along the beach, or drinking a hot cup of Colombian coffee on a Sunday morning.

Writing a dating profile is difficult and it can often be hard to turn the spotlight onto yourself with the fear of sounding boastful or making yourself vulnerable just around the corner, but just like most things in life, the more you put in the more you will get out of it.

Be proactive and don’t leave it up to the viewer to draw the facts out of you.

People message and reach out to others after reacting to something they have read and liked and that they connect with.

Think of it like a job application, with the goal being for someone looking at it to feel compelled to click on the message button and not the little X in the corner of the screen.

Instead of trying to fit in with everybody else, try to stand out and think about the little things about you that do.

Most of all be honest and have fun with your profile, if you can’t face committing your life ambitions and moral code to profile, just have a laugh, I’m positive you’ll find it is infectious.

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