My Ex Is A Stalker!

Some call her Auntie Wench but you can call her Aunty W.

Auntie W is a giant cup of brutal honesty because she firmly believes in tough love.
She won’t sugar coat and will often cuss to make sure she gets her point across.

She makes the hair on the back of our necks stand up because we know what she says is true.

Not for the faint hearted, the sensitive or the dramatic…


Dear Auntie W,

I feel creeped out by my ex. We dated for only a short while but she won’t let go. I thought we’d be mates, but then she gave me reason to not want to and I thought case closed.

I told her I didn’t want to talk to her anymore, and haven’t.

But she has taken to asking after me in all kinds of crazy ways. Many close friends have told me that she goes and tries to make conversation with them about whatever, and then tries to get information from them about me.

She has cornered people who aren’t close friends in public and tried to talk to them. And I caught her driving by my house.

I wasn’t going to talk to her again, but now I feel like she’s obsessed.

What do I do now?

Auntie W replies:

My Dearest,

Obsession is defined by our good friend Mirriam-Webster as: “a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling” – so it sounds to me like you’re right.

You have already told your ex that you don’t want to talk to her, and yet she somehow has the preoccupation with the unreasonable idea that she will change your mind, affect your decision, or otherwise ‘reach’ you by, well, obsessively asking your friends about you, asking your acquaintances about you, and driving by your house.

In other words, sweetness, she does have a bit of a problem.

While everyone indulges in the modern garden variety of Google and Facebook stalking – which can include light hearted or late night checking up on distant relatives, friends, or exes – what you’re talking about goes a step further, is not light hearted and is public.

And by taking her crazy out in public, to your friends, and in the light of day, your ex really does make an unnerving statement: Not only is she obsessed, but she’s so out of touch that she doesn’t realize that she is literally showing everyone how obsessed she is.

Creepy, yes – and therein lies the reason that obsessed, in the verb form, includes the word ‘haunt’ in the description.

The good news, though, is that you haven’t come home to a boiling rabbit on your stove, so hopefully this seriously bad behaviour will pass, rather than escalate, given a little more time.

However, if things do escalate you need to contact your local authorities – abusive behaviour of any sort should never be tolerated.

In the meantime, I recommend having a talk with your friends about protecting your privacy when they encounter your ex, pouring yourself a stiff drink and employing the Rabbit vibrator to take your mind off things.

Love always,

Auntie W

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