I’m In Love With A Straight Girl…

I am forty-five years old and I’ve never fallen in love with a straight woman – until now. 

She is older than me and single. I feel sick to my stomach about it. I think she’s feeling it too, but she’s way too straight to deal with her feelings. I see her and I want to be with her and I know it’s an awful recipe for disaster. I’ve watched my friends go through this over the years and always felt so darned smug. I guess I’m getting my comeuppance.

I feel way too old for this sort of thing. What can you recommend?

Auntie W replies…

My Dearest Frustrated Lesbian,

With the case of the straight women, there tend to be two types of ladies-who-like-ladies: the ones who find an appeal in sleeping with, chasing, dating, dallying, or coupling with women who claim heterosexuality as their primary identity; and the ladies who happen to once upon a time fall in love with a straight woman.

What’s more neither age nor smugness, puppet, ever seem to matter.

The good news here, though, is that you’re in the second group, meaning that you are not routinely seeking the ego boost that accompanies ‘convincing’ someone to want you; the bad news is that you are routinely suffering the heartache that accompanies keeping your feelings to yourself.

In both cases, however, direct communication is key, and the only way to stand an honest chance of retiring to the boudoir.

In other words, FL, whether you want to bed a straight lady for an evening or for eternity, the only way to really assess if she’s interested, is, in fact, to address your own feelings with her.

This of course will allow room for her to explore where she falls on the Kinsey scale, and for you to listen to her directly, rather than imagine what she does or does not feel.

It does not, in fact, have to be a disaster; it can instead be a discussion.
Either way, at least you’ll be able to make your next move (or offer) from a more informed position.

Love always,

Auntie GG

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