My situation is that I am in my late forties, a lifelong lesbian, and recently ended the relationship with my partner of nearly fifteen years.
We are doing well, my former partner and I, in our strategies for dealing with people inquiring and such, but I find that I am exhausted more often than not and just want a fresh start.
I am starting to realize that the ending of this relationship actually feels a bit like needing to start over, not just about my partner but life on the whole…
I met a great girl and we became girlfriends almost three months ago.
We do all sorts of stuff together and she’s loads of fun.
We’re both in our late twenties and tend to like the same music, people and fashion.
The only trouble is that my girlfriend is afraid of dildos…!
The past number of dates I’ve been on were absolute disasters.
I met these women at different social events and thought they seemed nice.
But one woman spent the whole night telling me all about her ex girlfriend, one woman kept checking her mobile all night and one woman didn’t ask me a single question all evening!
I’m a recent college graduate and now job hunting. I’m writing because I’m not sure whether I should be coming out during job interviews, or not.
I don’t know if it will hurt or help my credentials if I’m out during the process and am also uncertain that the interviewers will gather that I’m a lesbian if I don’t say anything at all…
I’ve got a sex question: I love sex, but I just don’t like being the one doing the fucking.
Over the years this has been sometimes ok and sometimes vaguely not ok between myself and my lovers, but I have tried to keep them happy in a variety of other ways, sexually and domestically.
However, lately this has been a real struggle…
I’ve been with my partner for about eight years now – since we were very young – and we still get on well.
We have both grown up and ‘made it’ together as a couple.
We live together and were able to buy our home, plus we own a small business together, too. These parts all work.
My partner is kind and funny and loving and she would do anything for me.
In all of these ways, I am one of the lucky ones.
But we did get together when we were very young and the sex has never been the best for me…
The title says it all – my girlfriend wants anal sex!
I have always thought of myself as a non boring sexual person, but I feel hesitant about this.
We’ve done it all kinds of other ways and positions, but I am not experienced at anal sex, and she is.
She assures me that I don’t have anything to worry about, that I should just stick it in and so forth and that she will show me the rest. I have told her not yet, but I’m putting her off and she knows it…
I’m getting mixed messages everywhere…
Recently, after going on several first dates, I accepted a number of dates from a woman who I actually fancy, and now things are confusing.
She pursued me and says all sorts of promising things, but then really backs off between dates and the messages don’t match!
We can’t tell you how many emails we get asking for advice from dating to love making – kid you not.
And we’d love to answer each one personally but frankly we can be a little bit hopeless in some departments – hey, we’re just honest.
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But here’s the catch, one of them is nicer than the other…