Stephanie and Katherine Met on GaydarGirls

I messaged Katherine first, I tried to be funny – she told me some time later she could decide if I was being funny or rude! But she messaged back anyway (thank goodness!)

Katherine’s profile, unlike a lot on GaydarGirls (tsk, tsk girls…), was actually filled out in full, so I read through her profile and found we had some common ground.
The honesty of it was the nicest thing, she wasn’t trying to be anything other than herself, which made it easier to initiate contact.

Our first date was interesting – we lived on opposite sides of the M25 (me south, Katherine north) so I drove round and I took her to Brighton for the day.

The first 3 hours of our date we were in a car and had no choice but to talk. It was really good, we found out instantly that we were at ease with each other.
We did kiss on our first date. It wasn’t actually long from being out of the car, I told Katherine that I wanted to get it out of the way so we could both stop thinking about the first kiss!

For me one of the most important things about our relationship is that neither of us has had to give anything up to be together, there aren’t any friends I’m not supposed to talk to, Katherine makes no restrictions on me. I’m the same person from when she met me that I am now.

All other relationships, I’ve been expected to change.

Katherine says,

“There’s lots of things that are important; that we’re kind to each other, that we’re friends as well as lovers, that we think about each other not just ourselves”

Katherine is probably the boss, although she doesn’t believe that! Ha!

We actually have a pretty good balance of taking turns at that depending on the situation. I’m pretty decisive about decisions to do with the house/ gifts for people/ making arrangements with friends, where as Katherine takes the lead on family stuff/ if we’re going out/ food.

We’ve been together 5 years, married for 1, maybe not love at first click, but Katherine has never failed to make me smile, and I knew after a few months that I would ask her to marry me and after a 18 months of living together I did…

Everyone is different, so my opinion may not hit the mark with everyone, but to those looking actually for a relationship:

Talk to people, anyone and everyone – don’t click off of a profile because the picture isn’t model perfect.
Also. FILL OUT your profile.
If all you’ve got is a picture and basic info – the only people who contact you are going to be after 1 thing, give people something to work with.

One last thing – come up with something original to message girls with “Hi – how are you?” isn’t an opening line – read their profile and pick up on something- show that you’ve actually bothered to read about them and take an interest.

 

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Mariella Mejia; works at GaydarGirls and is always on the lookout for great content, inspiring stories and restaurant recommendations – she can’t help herself.